Casual Dating Over 40 in Australia, Around a Real Life

Time is the real constraint

You are not browsing for entertainment. You have an evening free, or a weekday lunch, or a window while the kids are at their other parent's, and you want that time to be worth using. Being direct about your availability and what you are after in a first message saves both people from a slow back and forth that goes nowhere.

Distance matters more than it did at 25

An hour each way was fine once. It is a different calculation now. Set a distance you would actually travel on a normal week, not the distance you would have travelled a decade ago, and be honest with yourself about which one that is.

Being direct about what you are after

Whether that is something casual and ongoing, a single occasion, or company without the weight of a relationship, say so plainly. People who are also over 40 and also short on time tend to respond well to directness, because it saves everyone the same thing it saves you.

Why this page exists

We are not going to pretend this is only about marketing to a different age group. Casual dating sites that skew younger tend to attract people who are browsing rather than deciding, and that is a worse experience for everyone on the site, including the people in their twenties who are on it for the right reasons. A site with more members who know what they want and have limited time to find it works better for all of its members, not just the ones over 40.

If discretion matters to you specifically

Many of our members over 40 are attached, or work in roles where privacy matters, or simply prefer to keep this part of their life separate from the rest of it. See discreet dating in Australia for what our privacy controls actually do and, just as importantly, what they do not.

What it costs

Joining, browsing and search are free. Messaging needs a paid membership, on the terms set out on our pricing page.