Discretion is one of the most overpromised words in this category. We would rather tell you plainly what our privacy controls do and where they stop, than reassure you with a word that does not mean anything specific.
Join free todayYou control who can see your full profile and your photos before you have exchanged a message. You can browse without appearing in general search results if you choose to. You can block or report another member in one action, without needing to explain the decision to anyone.
No setting can stop someone you have already spoken with from remembering what you told them, recognising your writing, or taking a screenshot of a conversation before you block them. Discretion is mostly something you manage in what you choose to share and when, not only a switch you turn on once and forget about.
Think about what is in the frame, not just the person in it: a street sign, a distinctive tattoo, something in the background you would recognise if you saw it on someone else's profile. Share more once trust has actually been established through conversation, not before.
This is not advice about deceiving anyone outside this site, and it makes no assumptions about your situation, attached or not. It describes tools available to any member who wants more privacy, for whatever reason is theirs.
Discretion matters differently depending on where you live. In a city the size of Adelaide, where the same people tend to show up in more than one part of your life, the calculation is different from a bigger city. See casual dating in Adelaide for how that plays out specifically.
Read our safety page as well as this one. Privacy and safety overlap but they are not the same thing, and both matter before a first meeting.
No, and we are not going to tell you it can. Privacy controls reduce the chance of being recognised by people you did not choose to be seen by, but no site can promise you total anonymity, and any site that claims otherwise is overstating what technology can do.
They limit who can see your profile and photos, let you control what is visible before you message someone, and let you block or report without needing to explain yourself.
They cannot stop someone you have already messaged from recognising your writing style, remembering details you shared, or taking a screenshot before you block them. Discretion is something you manage in what you share, not only in a setting you switch on.
No. This page describes tools and their limits for anyone who wants privacy on a casual dating site, for reasons that are entirely their own. It is not advice about relationships outside this site, and it makes no assumptions about anyone's situation.
All members of Instant Quickies are consenting adults aged 18 and over.