Casual sex is not a fantasy category. It is an arrangement between adults who are honest about what it is, honest with each other, and honest about the odds on any given night. Instant Quickies is built around that honesty rather than around the promise most sites in this space sell instead.
Join free todayMost first messages on casual dating sites fail because they are vague, or because they are the opposite problem and read as a demand rather than an opening. Neither works. Say that you are after something casual, open-ended and no strings, and say it once, clearly, on your profile rather than making someone guess. See our guide to writing a first message that actually gets a reply.
Distance is the part every site glosses over. A match forty kilometres away in Sydney traffic on a Tuesday night is not really a match, whatever the app says. We ask you to set a distance you would genuinely travel on an ordinary weeknight, not the distance you would travel once on a good weekend, because that is the distance that actually produces a message back. Our city pages for Melbourne, Sydney, Brisbane, Perth and Adelaide go into that by area.
Joining, browsing and search are free. Messaging needs a paid membership, and the current price is on our pricing page, not hidden behind a sign-up wall. Nothing here buys you an outcome with another person. It buys the ability to message them, which is a different thing and we say so directly.
If what you are after is a single occasion rather than an ongoing arrangement, the etiquette is a little different, from how you agree it to how you both leave afterwards. That is covered separately on one night stands in Australia.
Being frank about casual sex does not mean being careless about meeting a stranger. Meet somewhere public first, tell someone where you are going, and keep the conversation on the site until you are ready to move it. Our safety page covers the two things that go wrong most often, starting with anyone who asks you for money.
It is built for casual and open-ended arrangements, and we describe it plainly as that. Some connections stay casual, some do not. We do not promise either outcome, and any site that promises you an outcome with another person is promising something it cannot deliver.
Being specific is not the same as being crude. Say what you are looking for, whether that is ongoing and casual or a single occasion, and say it in plain language rather than innuendo. Most people respond better to clarity than to guesswork.
Messages stay on the site until you choose to move them elsewhere, which is deliberate. See our safety page for the two things that go wrong most often and how to avoid both.
No. A paid membership buys messaging. It does not buy an outcome with another member, and nothing on this site should ever read as an offer to buy one.
All members of Instant Quickies are consenting adults aged 18 and over.