Two things go wrong far more often than anything else on a casual dating site: someone asking for money, and someone pushing to move the conversation off the site immediately. Both are worth treating as a warning sign the moment you see them, not after something has already gone wrong.
Not for a gift card, not for help with an emergency, not for a deposit on a flight to come and see you. This is the single most consistent pattern in romance and dating scams, and the ACCC's Scamwatch publishes current guidance on how these scams typically unfold. If anyone you have matched with asks you for money in any form, stop responding and report them to us.
Being asked to switch to a personal number, a messaging app or email within the first few messages is a common precursor to both scams and harassment, because it moves the conversation somewhere we cannot see it and cannot help if something goes wrong. Keep things on the site for as long as you are comfortable, and be wary of anyone who is unusually insistent about moving quickly.
You can block another member at any time, without needing to explain the decision, and reports are read by a person. If someone pressures you after you have said no, or will not stop after you have disengaged, report them. The eSafety Commissioner's esafety.gov.au also has guidance and a reporting pathway for image-based abuse and online harassment that sits outside what we can act on directly.
If you have experienced sexual assault or domestic or family violence, 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) is the national counselling service, available by phone at any hour. If you believe you have been the target of a scam, report it through the ACCC's Scamwatch. Both organisations are Australian and independent of Instant Quickies.
Safety and privacy overlap but are not the same thing. See discreet dating in Australia for what our privacy controls do and, honestly, what they cannot do.
Someone asking you for money, and someone pushing to move the conversation off the site straight away. Neither is a coincidence, and both are worth treating as a warning sign rather than bad luck.
No. Nobody genuine on this site will ask you for money, a gift card, or help with an emergency. Treat any such request as a scam and report it immediately.
No. Meet somewhere public the first time, tell a friend where you are going, and arrange your own way home rather than relying on the other person.
The ACCC's Scamwatch and the eSafety Commissioner both accept reports and publish current guidance. 1800RESPECT is the national service for sexual assault and domestic and family violence counselling, available by phone.
All members of Instant Quickies are consenting adults aged 18 and over.