A one night stand is a single occasion between adults who have both said, clearly, that a single occasion is what they want. It works best when neither person pretends it is anything more or less than that, before, during or after.
Join free todayThe single biggest cause of a bad one night stand is not the night itself, it is a mismatch in what each person thought they were agreeing to. Say plainly that you are looking for one occasion rather than an ongoing arrangement, and check the other person means the same thing. It takes one sentence and it prevents most of the awkward mornings people complain about afterwards.
Whatever the arrangement, the first meeting should be somewhere public: a bar, a café, somewhere with other people around and a way to leave easily if it does not feel right. Tell a friend where you are going and roughly when you expect to be back in touch. None of this is about distrust of the specific person. It is a habit worth having regardless of who you are meeting.
A one night stand does not need a follow-up conversation to have gone well. It also does not need to end badly. Be honest in the moment about what you want, be considerate afterwards, and if the other person messages you again, a short, kind reply that things were fun but you are not looking for more costs nothing. Silence is not cruelty by default, but a considered reply is kinder when you have the option.
If what actually interests you is something that repeats rather than a single night, that is a slightly different conversation with different expectations. See no strings attached dating in Australia for how that works.
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Read our safety page. The two things that go wrong most often on casual dating sites are money requests and pressure to move off the site immediately, and both are easy to spot once you know to look for them.
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