No strings attached is a real, ongoing arrangement between adults who have agreed what it is and, just as importantly, what it is not. It works when both people say so out loud early, and it goes wrong when one person hopes it will quietly become something else without saying anything.
Join free todayNo strings attached means seeing someone, sometimes regularly, without the expectations that usually come with dating: no meeting the family, no assumption of exclusivity unless you have both said otherwise, no obligation to check in every day. It does not mean no honesty and it does not mean no boundaries. The absence of strings is about expectations, not about decency.
The arrangements that work are the ones where both people say what they want before anything happens, not after. That means being direct about whether you are seeing other people, whether either of you wants to know if that changes, and how much contact you actually want between meeting up. It is a short conversation and it saves a much longer, worse one later.
No strings arrangements end more often than they become something else, and that is fine. A clean ending is a message, not a disappearance: something as simple as "this has been good, but I think I am done here" costs you nothing and spares the other person the guessing. Ghosting someone you have been seeing regularly is not a neutral act just because there were no strings attached to begin with.
No strings dating is usually ongoing, which is a different shape from a single meeting. If what you are actually after is one occasion rather than a repeating arrangement, see one night stands in Australia for the etiquette that applies specifically to that.
Joining, browsing and search are free. Messaging needs a paid membership, on the terms set out on our pricing page. Nothing about paying for messaging changes what anyone owes anyone else. The arrangement is still something two people agree, not something either of you is entitled to.
Meet in a public place first, keep the early conversation on the site, and read our safety page before you meet anyone for the first time, no strings or otherwise.
All members of Instant Quickies are consenting adults aged 18 and over.